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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It really has to do with feminism. It has emasculated the men on the coasts. It’s pretty sad really but this is what we get.

Sometimes I feel bad when I see a little boys in this area. There are a few moms at school who are constantly telling their boys how bad “men” are. Another [b]tells her son not to rape women [/b]like that’s the default for all boys. The kid does not even know what it means. [b]When those boys grow up, women will want them to be masculine like you all do. [/b]Bet they will have a hard time. [/quote]

Wow.  You’re more or less implying that raping women is masculine.  Disgusting.  [/quote]

I know you think it's this binary thing. Don't rape. But still be traditionally masculine.

But, the "don't rape" message isn't as simple as "don't stick your penis in a woman after she says, 'no, stop.'" There is a strong, related message of telling boys to be very careful to avoid making women uncomfortable when expressing their romantic interests. [b]That leads to men who are cautious, careful, and deferential to women because they don't want to inadvertently cause distress or offense.[/b] This is the opposite of masculine. The women who want traditional masculinity want a man (in whom they're interested) to sweep them off their feet. So, it's going to be tough for boys for a little while until a consensus on gender roles re-emerges. That's too bad for them, I guess. But, it's not that big of a burden when compared to the burdens we're trying to lift off of women imposed by centuries of patriarchy and toxic masculinity. [/quote]

I'm 100% fine with that, and it's not the opposite of masculine.  Lots of very masculine men are incredibly deferential to "their" woman- most, in fact.  And they still manage to be in shape, learn how to change a tire, etc.

You've obviously never, ever been to the south. [/quote]

Sure I have. It's the place with all the Confederate flags celebrating its heritage of treason and owning people. Add traditional gender roles as part of that rich heritage, I guess. [/quote]

You sound incredibly closed minded and provincial.  I urge you travel outside of your trailer park someday. [/quote]

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