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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wonder if this depends on the age of the child. I love my toddler and baby immensely, but if they died, I would have another. I truly don't think anyone could replace DH and I don't think I could parent or go through life with young children without him. In our 60s I'm sure I will feel differently as women start to naturally lose husbands then. [/quote]
Your child sounds replaceable to you.[/quote]

Not replaceable. I love them both so much though that I know if I had a third I'd love that one just as much. I had a difficult labor and remember making DH promise to choose me instead of the baby if there was a question of that. [/quote]

I think that most normal, non selfish people would chose the child over themselves in this situation. That's what I told my DH.

If DH had to push either you or your child away from an oncoming train you'd want him to choose you? Nice. [/quote]

+1  :shock: [/quote]

Her comment was made as a mother to a child already, that if it should come to her or her unborn child, the husband should pick her.  That isn’t unreasonable.  She has a duty and responsibility to the existing child.  Choosing herself and the happiness/stability over her existing child versus an unborn child is not unreasonable.  Just because you would choose differently, that doesn’t make her choice wrong/immoral.

Transposing her initial statement with your own additions and flourishes (changing it to an existing child and adding the train) shows only that you are so desperate to make your point that you must to change facts/circumstances to get the pity vote.  That isn’t how proper arguments work.  Feel free to argue based on the facts/scenario presented, not what exists in your head.[/quote]

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