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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I realize I should probably just let this thread die, but I have time now and I'm just not going to.

Any way, I was not raised in a different country or with a "different religion", we just didn't celebrate Christmas like people celebrate it now or like DH's family celebrate it. We got one or two gifts, had pretty standard meals, and were just not very religious, different culture for sure. We do push church more and other aspects, bc if we're going to celebrate Christmas like this I want her to have a better understanding why instead of this feeling that Christmas is all about the gifts.

I admit, perhaps timing was off or I could have done it differently, but this is how I've always done it, always have a real breakfast on Christmas when I've hosted and my DD never had issues before. This is the first time there was an issue.

I also would not let my 4 yo behave this way on her birthday. And honestly I would take away presents for it. She is able to communicate her feelings and she knows how to use her words and she knows it is wrong to intentionallly hurt someone else's feelings. She may still be working on impulse issues but not having any consequences for her actions is not how we operate.

DD also loves me, asks for me to be the one to pick her up from school, wants to run errands with me, cuddle with me. I just don't tolerate meanness. She's also incredibly empathetic, when another child is upset and crying she's the first to go to them. She's a good kid, so even if I'm "mean" about making her pause to eat breakfast, we're doing something right. Regardless, if she didn't get food in her there would be crying and she'd be quick to upset about other things, so she needed to eat. I didn't scream, I didn't yell, I just did what I would do in any similar situation, give her a chance to redeem herself and if she refuses send her to her room. Those of you that would let this just go astound me. I came here to see if my reaction could have been a little lighter on Christmas , expecting to hear things like "more for me!", not that I was evil and narcissistic bc I made my daughter pause her Christmas to eat the pancakes she's been begging for all week.

And I do have a background in childhood development, not from an education perspective, from a medical perspective (I probably care for some of your kids- are you terrified now!!). Those of you calling me a narcissist don't know what the word actually means!! [/quote]

even if you are right you need to think why you must be right at all times and convince others it is so.[/quote]

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