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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I am in the similar situation: husband is a fed, I work 50-70 hours/week. The difference is I run my family. I stayed with my kids at home 1-2 years when they were young, I disciplined them early and taught them good eating habits. We never had any electronic games at home and no cable. Smart phone was given only at the high school, middle school and elementary school kids are still using flip phones for the phone calls only. Either DH or I always checked the homework up to 3rd-4th grade and then kids did everything on their own. They doing great in the school (every single A for years, and taking very challenging classes in the high school). Each kids assigned a chore (we don't pay them for chores ), so when I get home, kitchen floor is swept, counters wiped, dog is walked, etc. Older kid is cooking now and cooks 2 dinners a week, so I cook only on the weekend, DH cooks once and we order sometimes. The key to this schedule is to prepare everyone (including the husband), and then it is function very well. [/quote]

So, basically you are admitting you don't do much.[/quote]

Not at this point of my life. When I work 70 hours week, I don't have time, energy for cleaning, cooking, homework, etc. [b]But I worked hard when the kids were young. I breastfed them for more than a year each and as a result my kids don't have any allergies, they don't get flu or cold, no other ADHDs or ADDs. I spent a lot of time with them when they were young and prepared them well for the life. [/b]My kids always get complements about how mature they are. It didn't come by itself. I put a lot of time, efforts and energy into the early child development. They are fluent in three languages since they were young.

My point is that before you jump to the jobs like OPs or mine, you need to prepare the family. I always praise my kids for how much they doing and remind them that I would not be able to work at this job if not for their help. And they know that it is my job that allows us those little luxuries like travel, nice cars, healthy foods, etc.  My kids doing much more than average teenagers, and I am very grateful for that.  Older kids drive younger to the aftershcool activities, playdates, etc. They take our dog to the vet when needed. They cook, bake and do the grocery shopping runs all the time. I would never ever feel comfortable working those hours knowing that my kids need me or struggle at some areas. I would be back by their side, not sitting in the office. [/quote]

Off topic but I can’t believe how delusional and self-congratulatory this poster is.  Really, you think your kids don’t have allergies or ADHD because you breastfed them?  Shame on you for laying those conditions on the feet of other parents because you think they didn’t “work” as hard as you.  Also, I breastfed my child for over a year and spent oodles of time with her and fed her all healthy unprocessed foods and she developed a rare autoimmune condition anyway.  Shit happens and it’s no ones fault.  I’m sure you’ll learn that lesson eventually but at your age you really should know better.[/quote]

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