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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes, it is.  If you want your message to be "I suck as a parent."

My DD is getting a car at 16 and it is about 2 years old, low mileage and a Honda and her comment was "If I get a car at 16, I am going to be excited about whatever car it is!"  She is getting a car because I am tired of being the chauffeur and yet I want her to continue being involved in so many awesome activities.  [/quote]

But you're GIVING   her a car?? She's not just borrowing the family car sometimes??[/quote]

Yup. She’s mature. Has awesome grades and has activities that take her and her sibling around the area a lot. How can she borrow the family car to get to school at 6:45 am?  How can she borrow the family car to get home at 5 pm from activities?  And to her various jobs and such?  I got a car at 16 and it was a great experience for me. And now I will do the same for my daughter but I won’t get her a 40k Car or some stupid perceived status symbol. [/quote]

A Honda Civic can also cost 40K.  A teen having their own car regardless of what it is, is about status.  Drive your own kids.  Sibling should not be parenting her siblings  You should.  She gets to school the same way she got there before age 16.  16 year olds don't need cars.  Their parents want them to have cars as it makes your life easier.  Yes, she can borrow a family car - you have three cars or share.  I don't get buying a car at 16 given they are going to college (one would hope since you can afford a car, you will also pay for college).[/quote]

NP. No, it can also be about convenience and not just status. Some busy teens need to get themselves to school and their many activities on their own. Call it their car or an extra family car, it's all just semantics. Hondas are solid choices. Very reliable and fuel efficient. If 40K were no big deal I'd much rather buy a Honda than a ridiculous Jeep.[/quote]

I agree that getting a 3rd car when you add a teen driver can be about convenience.  I think my parents handled it well -- although it annoyed me as a teen.  Dad got a new car when my sister started driving.  She was allowed to drive his old car which included driving me to school along with her.  This was not "her" car.  It was my parents car that she was allowed to use.  When I started driving a year later I also got to use that car.  It did not go to college with my sister because it was not her car and still needed at home for me to use.  They did eventually buy her a used car when her college required her to have a car (she was in a nursing program and a car was necessary for public health home visits).   About mid-way through college I was allowed to take the 3rd car (which was a different car by this point) to school to make it easier to balance my work and extracurricular activities.  I was still not allowed to call it 'my' car.  When I graduated they signed the car over to me and at that point it was "mine".  [/quote]

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