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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have 2 ADHD kids OP. One is a super distractible boy.

I do think that a cooking class is like a science lab. Kids screwing around are a safety hazard.   I also think that ADHD kids often do not realize how distracting they are.  From his perspective he might really believe he was just telling funny stories and was doing nothing wrong. And from the teacher’s perspective, he was not paying attention around ovens and knives, and keeping other kids from paying attention as well.  And did not kistenterbeing warned several times.  I doubt he is being manipulative or lying. But he may not have realized the extent of the problems he created. And he needs understand the rationale behind the grade. Because of lab science in high school. This situation will happen again unlessyou address it.

I would email the teacher. Cc the counselor. Cc special ed. And say”hey, I as concerned because the F is unusual, and Larlo wasn’t able to explain why he failed. I see the lab behavior notation.  And I know he would not have failed unless something serious happened. Can you explain what happened to me, so I can work on this with Larlo?

Be open to the idea that your kid may not be accurately reporting the whole story before you go in guns blazing. Either you will get a reasonable explanation from the teacher in which case, you need to talk to Larlo about what happened and why he got an F. Take the B as a quarter grade in a throwaway class in MS, and let him learn from it.  And if the explanation is not reasonable, pursue it further with the counselor, special ed, and administration. [/quote]

Yes, this. OP, I have ADHD and I have a child with ADHD, so I've been in both your shoes and your son's shoes. Please believe me, if you go in guns blazing blaming the teacher and refusing to even contemplate that your child might have earned this F through his own lack of awareness of his behavior, you are not just failing to help him but are actively impeding him developing the understanding of his own behavior that he needs to be successful in the long run. Sure, go get him the A this quarter, but know that in doing so, you may be setting him up for worse struggles later.[/quote]

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