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Would you judge me if I invite you over, and you find I live in a cluttered, fairly grimy little house and heat you up a Trader Joe pizza? And are you typically a scorekeeper who's easily slighted, or is that just coming out as part of your vent here? Because I'm secretly an anxious, overwhelmed, exhausted introvert, and while I like having people over sometimes, I can only bear it if they are amusing, relaxed, and nonjudgmental. [/quote]

Not OP, but yes I would judge.  Why is your house grimy?  And super cluttered?  What is preventing you from keeping a clean, tidy house?

And how much effort does it take to go beyond heating up a frozen pizza?  What about ordering takeout from a pizza place (pizza and salad)?  What do you feed your own family every night?  Just make that, but a larger portion for a few more people.  Such as: lasagna and salad, store bought cookies for dessert.  How hard is it to put in a small amount of effort to reciprocate and be a good friend to someone who has clearly put in a ton of effort to invite you and your family to their house over and over?[/quote]

I entertain a lot. I love to cook and make my house look nice, etc. I like coming up with a nice menu, picking out th alcohol, etc. So I do that. And I invite my friends. Some do them are terrible at entertaining. They hate cooking, their houses are disasters and stuff is everywhere! This is real life. Not everyone values the same things that I do. I will happily eat your Trader Joe's pizza and sit at your dining table that I had to help clear before we ate. Because my friends are cool and I don't need all of them to be entertainers. I am happy to play that role.

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But do you secretly feel smug and more competent than your friends in your role as ‘the entertainer.’[/quote]

No. They are a lot better at me at other things. Like one sewed up my kid's cut in their dining room. It takes all kinds. [/quote]

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