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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I vote for the dinner party idea with like minded people. What a nice way to bring people (friends and strangers) together who all like to cook, entertain, etc....the kids are out of the equation this way. Time to branch out OP but at the same time keep your expectations in check. Not everyone is going to above and beyond as you have done.

Is moving back to where your family is an option? Thin this area is not into the whole entertaining in your home idea as much as say Charleston, Savannah, Atlanta,etc.....[/quote]
I would say to actually *not* do a party and instead something with one couple that focuses on letting the adults interact. It doesn't sound like people have much opportunity to get to know OP, because she is always busy being hostess or minding the kids. Friendships aren't just formulaic, you have to actually like the people. And the only way for that to happen is to have the time and space to talk to each other.[/quote]
Disagree you are missing the point- every month or every six weeks the dinner party is held in another person home, that's the fun part. I was briefly a part of this and must say it was loads of fun and the burden of entertaining is fairly placed among everyone in the group while friendships strengthen via this fun way of getting together on a regular basis. These types of groups also have a great way of bringing together all kinds of people who might not normally meet otherwise. Would work well since OP has said she enjoys the process of entertaining.[/quote]
Ok, that makes more sense. But it still seems to me that part of OP's issue is not starting small. She doesn't seem to know any like-minded people, so creating a whole group of them to agree to an on-going social commitment won't happen overnight. Inviting one couple over and genuinely focusing on getting to know them (or one woman out for coffee/drinks to do the same) will come together much more easily and quickly.

I can only offer my experience. I have a monthly "ladies dinner out", that is primarily organized by one woman in the group. It's taken a little while, but I've grown close to these women and some (not all) of them have become 1:1 friends. I'm the only one in the group who has also hosted them in my home for weekend brunches, bbqs etc, but I don't mind because I know I like doing it more than others. I don't feel slighted by this, though, because I know *I* enjoy entertaining...and there is enough of a friendship established through our dinners out that for me it doesn't feel like I'm entertaining strangers.[/quote]

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