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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Can we stop debating the SAHM/SAHD situation and get back to answering OP's question?  I think she knows the upside and downside of telling her spouse to quit by now.[/quote]

There is no answer to OP's question. I'm not trying to be cruel. She knows her choices based on the decisions she already made, [b]chief among those starting her family a decade before her peers[/b]. [/quote]

This.  Not sure what OP can do about this!  Or why she thought this would be a good idea.  In most high paying careers you have to put your time in and it's near impossible to do that AND have young children and not have a miserable life.  It's why most women wait to have kids besides the frequent poster on here who says she had kids first and then launched her career.

All OP can do is find a new job or hire more help.  Pick one or both.  [/quote]

I cannot believe some people think it's offensive to suggest OP should talk with her DH about having him be the lead parent (as SAHD or working part-time) but somehow NOT offensive to say "not sure why she thought it would be good idea" to have 2 kids "a decade before her peers."

First of all, we don't know how old OP is.  Lots of people didn't go to law school right out of college.  Second of all, how horrible is it to judge other people for having kids in their (gasp!) mid-to-late 20s!  There are lots of reasons, cultural, religious, and biological, why doing so would be a good choice, and I say this as someone who (gasp!) had my first child at 29 after being diagnosed with unexplained infertility and having several miscarriages.  I would not have found it particularly helpful (and I would have found it quite painful) to be told I shouldn't have had kids when I did.  I WOULD have found it helpful to be told that my partner and I could work together to have one of us be the lead parent.[/quote]

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