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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]1. Keep your name professionally. No need to change your email address or business cards. Be Suzy Smith.

2. Hyphenate your name once you are married. Change your SS card, drivers license and passport. Your legal name will become Suzy Smith-Jones.

3. Your future children will be Larla and Larlo Smith-Jones. You will be the Smith-Jones family. Honestly, after you have kids, you will likely want to share your last name. It's annoying having to say, "I'm Suzy Smith...Larla Jones' mother."

4. Ask your fiancée if he wants to hyphenate or simply remain Dave Jones while you and the kids hyphenate. I'm curious what he thinks about THAT.

FWIW, everything I said above is what I did (although I use my hyphenated name professionally...because it quickly became my identity). I would not want to have a different last name from my kids...I think that's weird. [/quote]

Why can’t the kids have dad’s last name? It’s your choice not to change your name, why should they be saddled with a hyphenate name forever? If you choose to keep your name, you choose to be different from the family. I see it the same way as most people see combining their finances. If you’re all in, everything should be shared. I view the last name in the same fashion.  I’m not a man, by the way. [/quote]

I'm the person you quoted.

The hyphenated last name is the best of both worlds: I still have my name, and I take my husband's name, and our children have both our names. I left it up to my husband to choose whether or not to hyphenate. He opted not to. His choice. But I compromised, and I'm happy I did. I really wanted to have a family name that included my name as well, and I wanted to have the same last name as my kids. [/quote]

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