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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Good for you, OP for ending it.  I do think you might want to reconsider her innocence, for future experiences you may have with her or other women.  My husband had an affair with a coworker and told me it was all his fault and that he was the pursuer and she was just a sweet person (ugh).  Turns out she had started parking her car next to his,  volunteering to help him work late on his projects, and eventually suggested that if he left me, she would leave her husband.  Now, she was not some sort of siren and he is totally responsible for his awful actions, but she was also there.  Something about his views on her "innocence" made her more alluring.  So I am not saying your CW us a bad person or consciously leading you on, but she is involved too and she knows she is.  I think there's a danger in putting her in a pedestal and declaring her total innocence.[/quote]

Sorry to hear about your experience, and shocked he defended his AP to you. It's not an excuse at all but it sounds like he was in the throes of limerence (everyone's fave new word) but for the sake of your marriage I hope the fog has lifted from his mind. Separately, as a guy, the posts here from women about how women "know what they're doing" have been illuminating. I have a hard time understanding where friendship ends and manipulation begins. Regardless, hope your marriage strengthens.[/quote]

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