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[quote=Anonymous]With our first kid, I cooked a bit ahead of time, but mostly I was putting in long hours at work to prepare for my unpaid maternity leave. And I really, truly did not understand what taking care of a newborn would be like. It didn't occur to me to make big freeze-ahead meals, not that we could have fit that much in our freezer. I never cook casseroles or lasagna or the like anyway -- just not my cooking style. I read the posts on DCUM that said "it's ridiculous that a new mom doesn't have time to shower, babies sleep all the time!" and took them to heart. Oops. Baby never slept, basically nursed all the time, I was super depressed, it was hell. Fortunately my MIL brought some food and we ate it. After that we relied on frozen convenience meals and takeout for a couple months until I was up to cooking. DH is an ok cook but not great, but it really was all we could manage between the two of us to take care of one baby. I know how absurd that sounds, but it was our experience. None of our local friends had kids or liked kids so they didn't stop by or bring food or anything, and it never occurred to me that they would.

With the second kid, I froze as much chili and stew as our freezer could handle and stocked up on frozen dinners. But we also by that point were doing family meals with the older child, and he's not a big chili/stew eater, so we pretty much ate the stew for lunch and made very simple dinners every night. Lots of grilled cheese and salad. MIL didn't make any food the second time (even though we asked her to -- never quite figured out what happened there, but whatever). We did a lot of takeout and delivery for the first few weeks. One friend came to visit and brought food and we were incredibly grateful. We got 3 dinners out of it. It was awesome. But in general my recovery was much faster and taking care of baby was so much easier the second time around, even though baby had some health issues, so after about a month we settled back into the cooking routine without too much trouble. The difference is now the meals are very simple.

I didn't grow up around babies and almost none of my friends had babies when we had ours, and I really had never heard of bringing food until my friend brought some for our second baby. Food when someone is sick or there's been a death, yes. For babies, just not something on my radar until someone else did it for me. Oh and this was 6 months ago, so quite recent![/quote]

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