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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is this expected of friends that visit as well, and I'm not talking dinner time, but during the day?

And what would you have done if they were not visiting you? [/quote]

Did you just fall off the turnip truck? It's good manners to bring new moms food. [/quote]

+1, and I don't buy only people with kids know to do this.  I didn't have my first kid until I was 42, I've been bringing my friends food when they had kids for 20 years. [/quote]

Well, you are one of the few grannie.[/quote]

NP; she isn't one of the few, and immature name calling doesn't exactly stake out your position as the one on the side of proper behavior.

I've lived in 5 states since I was old enough to have friends having kids, and in each one food was a welcome and expected new-parent gift.

I completely understand that there are subcultures where this is not the norm, but everyone shouting that at OP should realize that she is a part of her subculture.  If she expected food, she's not in one where it's not the norm.[/quote]

Expecting handouts is not proper behavior. [/quote]

Like a pp above said, it's not that they're looking for handouts. It's that they were wanting to feel a sense of community and sisterhood. You know, how things used to be? "It takes a village" and all that? You sound incredibly obtuse.

So much "I don't need no stinkin help" attitude on this thread. Live like that if you please, but know that others want to feel connected and cared for by those in their circle. It's likely that they also want to do those things for their friends and family, too. So many people year for that sense of connection and kinship with their community like they saw their mothers and grandmothers have. I know I do.[/quote]

You get what you give. If there's a reason you don't have that community, it's because you didn't bother to build it. Just because you decided to have a child doesn't make it magically appear. [/quote]

So eff em, right?  :roll: God, people are nasty. Let me guess: you have a big, warm, loving, fulfilling village that fills up your love tank so fully that you come here on DCUM and share the love. Oh wait. Never mind. You said "you get what you give." Your life must be utterly dismal then.[/quote]

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