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The person to scorn here is the woman who had a baby with a man she barely knew, and never told him about it -- then decided she wanted cash.

OP, now that you have been established as the biological father, you are entitled to half time with the child. So Baby Momma just gave up half of her time with her precious child -- which shows just how much she cares about her kid.

I'm adopted, and I think what this woman did was despicable.

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[b][u]The mother should have given the baby up for adoption to an intact, two-parent home[/u][/b].[/quote]

Yes. Instead, welcome to your crappy life, child.[/quote]

You people are ridiculous.  First he should have been able to dictate that she get an abortion, now she should have carried the child for a completely hypothetical couple?  All of that to avoid OP having to take responsibility for his own child.  Handmaid's Tale wasn't supposed to be an instruction manual, idiots.[/quote]

And where is the mom's responsibility here? She can't be bothered to tell the father he is a father until it suits her purposes.[/quote]

What do you mean where's her responsibility?  She carried, birthed, and has been raising the child.  In contrast to him not wearing a condom and then considering how to get away with doing the least amount possible, I'd say that's pretty responsible.  And in the original post, OP said that she had the child "some time ago," which implies that she didn't ask for child support until she had to -- probably because she applied for assistance (most state programs won't carry the dad's weight if he a CS order isn't filed).  If I was her I'd try to keep this emotionless robot off my kid's radar too, but sometimes you can't always get what you want.[/quote]

Why canonize this woman's poor behavior? She could have used birth control, known who the heck the guy was, contacted him right away (OP says he recently found out and she had the baby awhile ago.)

Having a baby without a supportive, WILLING partner is NOTHING to be encouraged and celebrated.[/quote]

Now pushing back against the idea that a woman should be forced to have an abortion or give up her child if the father considers it an inconvenience is now "canonization," mmkay.  This place is barely a half-step from /redpill.[/quote]

[b][u]No one is saying that[/u][/b]. A decent person would have consulted (or at least informed) with the father, even if he were a one night stand, so they could discuss it together and he could at least be prepared for the implications. I'm a woman, btw, and think it's really shitty when women treat men like they're only good for sperm banks and wallets. Both parties have a responsibility to prevent unwanted pregnancy but when mistakes or accidents happen a man is just apparently supposed to just deal with it on the mother's terms. OP is paying child support on time without complaint. That's at least a start.

Anyway, none of that matters now because the child is here. But IMO the mother instigated OP's total lack of concern. I wish both parties and the child the best in figuring this out.[/quote]

Literally, the person I'm responding to (you?) is saying that.  I'm a person, btw, and I think it's really shitty when anyone treats a woman like she's only good as an incubator and servant.

She can't [i]instigate [/i]his lack of concern.  That's not even a coherent thought, let alone sentence.  Jesus, the idiots on this thread.[/quote]

DP, I like you so much right now.[/quote]

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