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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If I was accused and my wife kicked me out, there is no way I'm coming back when I'm cleared.  You can't fix that.[/quote]

Eh, but...if my husband has been evading the cops for over a week and hiding it from me, then they show up and he deliberately shuts me out of the conversation...I don't think you can fix that either [/quote]

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What makes it worse is that this incident is about a month old.

He had that much time to come clean about it. [/quote]

And if he's actually innocent and maybe a co-worker said DH went to bed early? Perhaps he thought he wouldn't be contacted. Maybe it was her and 6 male co-workers out for drinks and she doesn't remember how the night ended but woke the next day naked and aware she was raped. The cops got a sample and are checking it against the 6 guys that were with her.[/quote]

I'm not going to hypothesize about what may or may not have happened.

The issue is that DH had several opportunities to disclose sexual assault allegations and deliberately chose to not tell me. If he would hide something this serious, what else would he hide? And if he is truly innocent, why did he hide it from me?[/quote]

I think this is a valid question to ask yourself. If my DH had been in a situation where he'd been with a group of people, left early, and then found out someone in the group was assaulted later and the police were investigating, he would absolutely talk to me about it. "Wow, I can't believe what's going down at work right now. I wonder if I'll be questioned as a witness? Will I have to testify? Do I need a lawyer if I'm just a witness and not accused? This is making work hell right now, people are totally divided on it and it's really awkward."[/quote]

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