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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Fwiw, not planning family events will result in angry in-laws and we know how that goes. Same with not sending thank you notes.[/quote]

You think thank-you notes are important, we got that. Arguably they are. The previous statement however that men remarry so that someone else can write their thank-you notes is wrong.[/quote]

Obviously they don't remarry for thank you notes and I wasn't saying that.  The reason they remarry is probably subconscious.  But a married man is used to having someone do EVERYTHING for them.  For so many men all they have to do is go to work and maybe do the dishes and they have this relatively cush life.  A life where they live in a nice home, go on vacations, have social events scheduled, kids are taken care of etc.  [/quote]

[b]Who the hell are these men who get "everything" done for them?[/b] That's not my life, I know that much. I cook my own meals, do my own laundry, clean up after myself.

As for "live in a nice home, go on vacations" since I pay for those things it is my right to enjoy them --[b] and heck I don't need to be married to get either one[/b].[/quote]

Most men.  Out of all of our married friends I dont know one couple where the man is in charge of the social calendar, buys the children clothing, plans the vacations and figures our logistics, decorated the house etc.

So you currently are the one who meets with the interior designer?  You plan the vacations and I don't mean just picking the location to visit.

Here are a few questions you can ask yourself (if married) to see if someone is taking care of you:

1. Who purchased the airfare and booked the hotel on the last vacation??  Who chose what to do on the vacation and researched it in advance?

2.  Who chose and purchased the sheets on your bed?  Or did these sheets just show up and you never thought about where th came from?

3.  Who washes the sheets?  Who knows when they were last wages?

4. Who chose the window coverings in your house and scheduled for them to be installed?  Who made sure they match your decor?

5.  Who scheduled the last doctor's appointment for your child?  Who went?

6.  Who determined the Christmas Eve/day menu, went shopping for it and cooked?

7.  Who decided how to celebrate New Years?

8.  Who planned the last date night ?  Who scheduled the babysitter for it?

9.  Who scheduled your kid's birthday party, bought the cake, bought presents, had your kid write thank you not s?

10.  Who picked out the furniture and bedding in your childrens' rooms?

11.  When is your child due for their next vaccine?  Next doctor's appointment?  When is registration for school?

12.  Who made sure your child learned to swim?

13.  Who makes sure the dog has had a bath?

14.  Who figured out what you'll do over thanksgiving and where you'll go?  Who told others what the plan is?

Omg I could go on.

Congratulations if you did all of these things above.  If so, you're an evolved male.  [/quote]

Again with a list of mostly irrelevant things. "Christmas Eve menu" Really? As if without that men would be lost? The majority of items on your men-are-taken-care-of-list are not directed towards the man.

When I was single (mid-thirties) my Thanksgiving and Christmas meals were healthy snacks eaten at the gym. Now that I'm married I don't have time for the gym because I'm running around taking care of all sorts of "family tasks" that I personally DO NOT NEED. A large percentage of things "scheduled for me" merely add to my list of ever growing to-do items that do not add value to my life. I can't remember the last time I had time for the gym and I get to listen to a wife that makes off-hand comments about my "belly" and tells me I should eat so late at night after I'm finally able to shut off the computer at 10:00 pm after a 14 hour work day.

Don't add a pile of irrelevant items done for your own benefit and then claim you are doing it for me.[/quote]\

Are you seriously saying you think it's OK that Christmas for your children could be "healthy snacks eaten at the gym."  [/quote]

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