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I am baffled at the. Number of people who can't seem to figure this guidance out. The PP is right, children should be spaced a minimum or 2 years 9 months apart for optimal health. [/quote]

Are you really that anxious that you plan the spacing based on this?
What's really going to happen if you space them 24 months apart? It's probably 0.001% better to wait an additional 9 months. Lol
Not screwing up the spacing for something so negligible.[/quote]

What do you mean by screwing up the spacing? So it's "wrong" to have kids 3 years apart? If you knew anything about psychology, you would know it's actually better for the children to have 3-4 years between them. People assume kids who are very close in age will be "best friends " and they can just lump them all into the same activities and interests, which is really harmful in the long run. Kids need individual attention from their parents, and they need to be allowed to form relationships with friends and siblings based on their own interests and personalities, not just lumped in together because their parents wanted to "get it all over with."

And yes, I would space children farther than 2 years apart based on the very real evidence of better optimal health and developmental outcomes, lower risk of autism and developmental disorders, and better psychological outcomes for the child. Call me crazy, but I want to maximum the chances of best outcomes for my offspring.[/quote]

NP.  I take your point about wanting to give your kids the best odds.  But I think there is a danger of putting too much stock in some very long odds.  For example, if it works better for your career, or if there are other considerations (your age/health/whatever), you shouldn't push those aside to make sure you wait exactly 2yr 9 mo.  Statistically, there's just not a big difference between 2 yrs 9 mo and 2 yrs 4 months (and so on).  The same is true with regards to the attention you can pay to your kids.  The advice is good, and worth mentioning, but I don't think it should be the only consideration in assessing what works best for one's family.[/quote]

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