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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not sure. My kids are 4 years apart, though. The bigger age gap is awesome for us. I've gotten to really enjoy/focus on each one''s babyhood, and when I get babied-out with the little one, I can spend big-kid time with the big one.

I had the first at 33 and second at 37, so I had age somewhat on my side...I didn't feel desperate to have the second. Also, I wasn't sure I wanted a second for a long time...not until after the first turned 3. [/quote]

I would have felt so old having my first kid at 33.[/quote]

Is your peer group fairly uneducated? Not one of my friends had a baby before 30 due to advanced degrees and careers.[/quote]

+1.  [/quote]

I have a law degree and am a practicing lawyer. Ivy-educated. First kid at 29, third (and last) at 33. Sorry to disappoint.[/quote]

Being so well educated, seems like you would have known it's not healthy to have kids so close together.[/quote]

Sounds like they were all two years apart. Isn't that what WHO recommends?[/quote]

Nope. The recommendation is to wait two year after the birth of a child to begin trying for another pregnancy. So even if you were to get pregnant right away, the kids would be close to three years apart. [/quote]

I am baffled at the. Number of people who can't seem to figure this guidance out. The PP is right, children should be spaced a minimum or 2 years 9 months apart for optimal health. [/quote]

Are you really that anxious that you plan the spacing based on this?
What's really going to happen if you space them 24 months apart? It's probably 0.001% better to wait an additional 9 months. Lol
Not screwing up the spacing for something so negligible.[/quote]

What do you mean by screwing up the spacing? So it's "wrong" to have kids 3 years apart? If you knew anything about psychology, you would know it's actually better for the children to have 3-4 years between them. People assume kids who are very close in age will be "best friends " and they can just lump them all into the same activities and interests, which is really harmful in the long run. Kids need individual attention from their parents, and they need to be allowed to form relationships with friends and siblings based on their own interests and personalities, not just lumped in together because their parents wanted to "get it all over with."

And yes, I would space children farther than 2 years apart based on the very real evidence of better optimal health and developmental outcomes, lower risk of autism and developmental disorders, and better psychological outcomes for the child. Call me crazy, but I want to maximum the chances of best outcomes for my offspring.[/quote]

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