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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it's okay especially since the kids have been there twice.  If anything isn't fair, it is skipping the trip altogether because you can't afford to take everyone.  The kids have been twice.  That's enough.  [/quote]

NP who agrees completely. The older kids have been twice already; presumably at least one time was with their dad. (Right, OP?) If none of the kids had ever been, of course you would take them all, but I really don't understand why the three-year-old can't have the same thing the other kids got: a trip to Disney with their nuclear family.

Besides, the age gap is such that they will be interested in very few of the same activities. [/quote]

Fairness isn't the point here.  I can see how that would seem "fair" to some, but it does not feel good to the kids and if they really do think their father loves them less, this is not a good idea.  If OP and her DH want to create a happy family where all the children feel valued, they need to think about everyone's perspectives and opinions.  Not just cling to the most restrictive idea of "fairness" that will let the OP pretend she doesn't have stepkids.  It seems cruel and short-sighted to hurt the older children's feelings when they could just save up and go next year instead.[/quote]

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