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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I teach my DS that unless he's in serious, imminent physical danger, he's not to hit girls. 
In that situation the boy should have involved an adult. 
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I guess you don't want grandchildren since you are OK with girls kicking your DS's nuts in with retaliation.[/quote]

First, I said he should involve an adult. I'm not okay with anyone hitting him, boy or girl. What I'm really not okay with however, is having him to grow into a 200 pound man who believes it's okay to punch a 110 pound woman in the face because she kicked him in the balls. That size difference is not a bloody nose--it's a broken jaw, concussion, teeth knocked out, or death. My son won't worry about having children or any kind of life from his jail cell. [/quote]

Your perception that a woman can not physically harm a man is wrong. On average men are stronger than women but men are also vulnerable. Their skin and skull and throat are no stronger than a woman's. If a woman has a gun, knife, frying pan or other implement - she can do considerable damage. Men have also been seriously injured by women who intend to cause them harm. Your expectation of a man is that he be a punching bag for a woman...seems to indicate you don't think men are deserving of respect. That they should tolerate being hit and kicked and punched and scratched. It isn't always possible to just involve an adult when someone is scratching and kicking you. If there was an adult right there I assume they would have intervened. I hope you don't have sons because teaching them they don't deserve respect or that abuse of men by women is acceptable is really a terrible message. Men should be able to defend themselves from harm too. they should use the strength they need to get themselves out of danger. For 12 year olds they are likely pretty similar in strength. Most men learn they don't need to use full strength as an adult if they person attacking them is weaker. [/quote]

I think you're reading way too much into what I said. I think men should be strongly inhibited from hitting women unless there is imminent physical danger. I think those inhibitions should start young so that when there is a major size difference after puberty they are well established. I agree that a woman can hurt a man and it should not be tolerated--I think a man is far more likely to hurt a woman in a physical altercation. I think women should also be inhibited against physical aggression- but most of us are heavily socialized not to hit in anger. I find it interesting that you are bringing the word "respect" into the conversation, it makes me think you are male. 
In this case, both kids should be in trouble- I think the girl may have been banking on the boy not retaliating, but he did and if they had been full size, he probably would have hurt her a lot worse if he didn't know his strength. [/quote]

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