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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am child free and don't regret it. This world and this country is not kind to women with children. Maternity leave in the US is a bad joke.
It seems like the country promotes immigration more than reproduction of its own women. Pumping breast milk at work - you got to be kidding me, it's cruel to women and babies that are separated from their moms at such young age. So no, no regrets.
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Really, so you decided not to have kids because of maternity leave and finding it difficult to pump at work?[/quote]

Perhaps it's one of many reasons. What, is that not enough of an explanation for you?[/quote]

Because maternity leave and breastfeeding are such small, minuscule stages of what is involved in having offspring for the rest of your life. [/quote]

Okay, why aren't you currently doing all those end all be all activities with your children, instead of spending your Sunday on the internet. [/quote]

My kids are high school age.  I don't spend my entire Sundays with them anymore. [/quote]

That's too bad. So the only important adult relationships you have aren't around anymore, so you spend your sundays on an anonymous Internet forum. Childfree here, and have things to do with the rest of my day. Most importantly, to spend time with other adults I have relationships with. [/quote]

We are both on this forum on a Sunday afternoon.  Why do you assume that this is a small break for you, in the midst of all your other exciting activities of the day, but not for me?[/quote]

Bravo!  I have three children, two of whom are old enough to be working or often otherwise engaged on the weekend.  I've always had my own interests and have taken some time for myself while raising my children and I'm about sick of the childless women who approach me and other mothers with snark and condescension because they assume we have no life beyond mothering.  I love my kids, but they don't define me.  And while I do and will miss them when they're gone, I have a million things I'm looking forward to doing when my mothering role is much smaller.[/quote]

Have you not read this entire thread?  So let me get this straight:  It's okay for moms to tell childless women that they're lives are meaningless and they're going to die alone, but you don't won't anyone implying you don't have any other interests?

Suck it up.  Mothers get ENDLESS validation about their meaning and worth and blah, blah, blah.  And then they go on to suggest that women without children are basically living empty lives.  But they don't know why, after suggesting that, women without children might question, well, maybe if you think my life is so meaningless and horrible without kids, then maybe that means you don't have much of a life aside from your kids?

You don't see that that's a direct reaction to the BS people say to childless women?

FFS.  I agree that that other childless PP was snarky.  But I get where it comes from.  You wouldn't believe the nasty things women have said to me because I don't have children.  And yes, when they say those things, it makes me think that they have no life beyond mothering -- [b]BECAUSE THEY ARE BASICALLY SUGGESTING THAT MOTHERING IS THE ONLY IMPORTANT THING IN THEIR LIVES.[/b]

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I have not seen a single parent poster on this thread suggest that being a mother is the only important thing in their life.  I have seen a childless poster jump to such a conclusion with absolutely nothing to base it on. [/quote]

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