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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]To men: very very much. 
To women: not so much[/quote]
[b]Then why the fuq bother be with anyone who only values you by your looks[/b]? I don't get it. I much rather be single for the rest of my life than live a life knowing if I put on weight, my husband or bf would be so embarrassed and not wanna be with me, or as suggested in the other threads cheat on me. [/quote]
DP

Initial attraction is important. Initial impression is important. So, if a person isn't attracted to you visually or personally then it's hard to get past that. That's not a character flaw it's simply a part of human nature.

So, if that attraction is there and a relationship develops, and it does so to a point of marriage, there is far less to be concerned about down the road. Mature individuals know that one cannot expect a person to remain exactly as they were at the start of a relationship.[/quote]

I could not disagree more. There is much to be concerned about "down the road".
Sustained attraction (not just initial attraction) is important.
One certainly can expect his/her spouse will continue to care about maintaining an attractive weight.[/quote]

I agree that sustained attraction is important. I've been married 35 years and while my DH and I are both over our wedding weight we both try pretty hard to stay reasonably trim and fit. Periodically we will jointly diet and that is very helpful. We know that carrying too much extra weight is not healthy nor easy on the joints. Finally, we still have a very active sex life and being reasonably fit and trim has probably had something to do with it. I don't think I'd want some obese guy lying on top of me.

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