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[quote=Anonymous]OP here with an update. I calmed down a bit and we managed to have a very real conversation. My wife's job isn't something she loves, but she's good at it and is paid decently and part of the agreement for me to take my job and leave the feds (where we had excellent benefits) was that she carry our health insurance through her work. Financially, my wife working put us in the category of stable, we were saving for retirement, kids college, and building savings. Without her job, we can basically cover the expenses but no retirement, no college savings, etc. It's bone tight and possibly worse considering my crappy crappy health plan.

Anyway, she admitted it was wrong to just quit, but she sort of had a breakdown and decided she was wasting her life. She wanted a career that is basically incongruent with our life (working in dangerous developing countries overseas instead of writing boring reports). I get it; I don't love my own job, but we have kids and bills and a life and choices we made. Sort of undoing a lot of things including selling the house, we are kind of screwed. I remember the adventure years. They were fun. We lived and traveled and spent 7 years before kids and our mutual decision to settle in DC and raise a family.

She agreed to withdraw her resignation, I encouraged her to find a new job and she agreed that therapy (which her excellent insurance basically covers for a 5 dollar co-pay) is in order.

I'm less upset, but I just feel like she's so wrapped up in her own resentment and "lost dreams" that she can't see what we do have. I don't know what to do with that.[/quote]

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