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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I think there is some jealous there.[/b] In the DC area, one partner has to be making a lot of money to enable the other to stay home and still maintain a nice lifestyle (nice house in a close in nabe, vacations, nice cars, pricey extracurricular activities for the kiddos, maybe private school, etc.)

To have an UMC lifestyle with a SAHP, the breadwinner has to be making 300-400k +.[/quote]

On my end its less jealous and more...disbelief. I was raised to be independent and to own my own financials. When I went into my marriage I was comfortably set in a career and had two properties free-and-clear. That only helped when we made future decisions together to buy our 'dream' home. It boggles my mind that some women will rely solely on another person's generosity to live their life.

It disturbs me even further when these same women, some of them friends, were die-hard Hillary fans and very much into telling their daughters that 'this will be the first woman president, someone to look up to, someone to emulate' and yet the closest rolemodel to those daughters completely opted out of a career. How can you tell your children to aspire to be the head of NASA or a president or a multi-millionaire CEO, but you didn't bother to do anything yourself?[/quote]

It sounds like you have worked hard and made good financial and life decisions. You are very fortunate! But do you really believe that your way is the best and only way? 
I married young, had children young, supported my husband's career and took care of our home and children as a SAH,  and began my own career a bit later in my mid 30's.  I have absolutely no regrets and feel VERY fortunate. 
My husband and I have always been a team - we both rely on each other's "generosity."  My children do see me as a role model despite the fact that I put my career plans on hold when they were young. I guess we do not measure people's value simply in terms of career. Am I in disbelief that others do not share my values, lifestyle choices, financial decisions or career path? Not at all. I realize that we are all cut from different cloth and have different life experiences. 
Why would I look down on others for not being like me or be "in disbelief" about it? [/quote]

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