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[quote=Anonymous]Godspeed, OP.

I went through severe PPD and anxiety and would have killed myself if I could have figured out how to make it look like a complete accident so my daughter wouldn't be burdened by the thought that her mom killed herself.  I thought I was the worst, most incompetent mom ever and the world and my family (especially my daughter) would be better off with me dead.  I recovered from the initial despair within a year and went to a therapist who was a bad fit and I avoided many responsibilities with my daughter because I sincerely thought I was incapable and would do more harm than good.  My husband filled in and took over, and for that I will be forever grateful.  I eventually switched doctors and made amazing progress with anti-anxiety meds and therapy that works for me.  I am now a very competent and confident mom, one who isn't scared to be alone with my kids but who instead relishes the time and ability to parent.  If I could do this, I have a lot of hope for you.  It can get better.  You can be the mom you wish you were.

If you've never gone through this extreme depression and anxiety, it's hard to explain.  It's not checking out because it's too hard.  It's checking out because you truly believe you are worthless and incapable.  It is not rational.  It is horrific for everyone, including spouses and kids.  For those with parents who were not there for you, I am truly, truly sorry.  Some people just can't make it through.  I think OP can and will due to her self-awareness.  Instead of piling on or tough love, it is imperative for OP to get the support she needs so she can be there for her children and husband.  I promise you that you can't say anything worse to OP than she's already told herself.

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