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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The thing with no kids rule is that where is the line? Not letting teens in is unfair.[/quote]

The line is who the bride and groom choose to invite.
Maybe they think it's more fair to exclude "all teens" because there are 20 teens in the cohort and they can't pick and choose, and they can't have 20 extra places at the wedding for kids who, quite frankly, would probably rather be elsewhere. [/quote]

Going to weddings is a core part of a lot of people's childhoods and excluding a 15 yr old for being a "kid" is extreme.[/quote]

And having a kid free wedding and not paying for a bored teen to attend is a choice the bride/Groom get to make as well.  Trust me, 99% of 15 yo would rather be at home, most are sitting on their phones some with headphones on the entire time.

IMO, you invite who you want to your wedding.  If you want a 18+, then that is a great choice--it's your choice.  And anyone who doesn't agree can feel free to simply reply "no" and stay home.

I don't get so many upset about teens not being allowed---you can easily leave them home/with friends for a weekend wedding.  And if you don't want to, then reply NO
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Teens aren't children.[/quote]

If the B/G want a 18+ or 21+ wedding they are

How difficult is it to understand, the B/G get to pick.  It's their wedding, they are hosting (or their parents are).  When you host an event, you get to pick the guest list accordingly.  
It's really a simple concept.  [/quote]

Of course it's their right. But then they can't get upset if/when guests decline. [/quote]

Yes. Of course.

The “upset” here overall isn’t coming from the child-free wedding respondents. The other side is upset.

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I think it depends on who is RSVPing no. When my brother got married, I was in the wedding party. I couldn't NOT go. Even as it was, I had to book a hotel room at a different hotel with suites so my in-laws could come watch our baby for us while we attended and my SIL was upset that we weren't staying at their hotel, even after I explained that their hotel didn't have suites/adjoining rooms that we needed to make it possible for us to attend their wedding.[/quote]

Well that is on your SIL.  You did what you needed to do, I'd simply reply "we need a hotel room with suites and connections so our baby is able to be taken care of.  It's not easy attending a wedding and not bringing my baby, so please understand I'm doing the best I can.  Thank you". and then tell your brother to have the SIL back off or you won't attend. 
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