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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If your infant takes a 2-hr am nap and a 2-hr pm nap, and sleeps like 11-12 hours a night, then your infant is only awake 9 hours a day.  All these folks saying, well my nanny only spent 3-4 waking hours with my kid...I mean, I get that "3" and "4" sound like small numbers, but it is a full 30-40% of your child's waking hours.  That's of course a meaningful difference in what you could be spending if you stayed home (and again, that's assuming you have a very good napper).

I'm a FT working mom, btw.  [/quote]

Me again - also what is this talk about 3 year olds going to preschool 5 days a week from 9-1?  The majority of the SAHMs in my area send their 3 yr olds to preschool for [b]3 mornings a week[/b] (pick up at lunch).  Haven't you heard of the "3 days 3's"?  It's very silly to make up all these numbers and schedules.  Certainly pre-ES, of course SAHMs spend an appreciably larger percentage of their kids' waking hours with them than do most WOHM (at least those with fairly typical schedules).  How silly to pretend otherwise!  [/quote]

Yes it is true most SAHM's that are wealthy and poor send their kids to 5 days of preschool because of the value it adds. For the poor it's free and for the wealthy it's not a big deal.

But if you give up an income and have to skrimp I understand you can't send your kids 5 days a week and that's fine, they will be fine. [/quote]

I live in a UMC suburb.  The wealthy SAHMs here do "3 day 3's" -- preschool 3 mornings a week.  They don't see a value beyond that amount of preschool time for a 3 yr old.  [/quote]

Good for them, I’m sure their status of wealthy SAHMs gives them the knowledge to know there’s no value after 3 days.   You should ask them to help write policy with their expertise based on being wealthy stay at home moms.  [/quote]

Goodness, what are you so angry about?  Many preschool programs for 3 yr olds tend to be 3 mornings a week, so someone out there other than "wealthy SAHMs" presumably thinks that is a developmentally appropriate/desirable amount of time for a 3 yr old to be spending in a structured, classroom, group setting.  Jeez, simmer.  [/quote]

+1. If you actually enjoy being home with your children, it’s really hard to do museums, pumpkin patches/farms, zoos, etc. if you send them to preschool 5 mornings a week. That’s why I didn’t do it. The SAHMs I know who used the 5 day program didn’t really seem to like being at home and/or were trying to work PT without other childcare. [/quote]

I stayed home with my third child. She went to preschool when her older siblings were in elementary school. When she was 2.5, she went to preschool for 2 hours 2 days per week. When she was 3, she went 3 hours per day for 3 days. At age 4, she went for 4 days for 3 hours. When she was younger, she came home for nap in afternoons and on the 3 days she did not have preschool, we did all the fun things around the DMV and had lots of play dates. She also would do ballet or swim class while older siblings were in school.

I used to have a FT housekeeper even when I stopped working. We live in a large house and I did not want to be cleaning this house all day. [/quote]

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