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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If your infant takes a 2-hr am nap and a 2-hr pm nap, and sleeps like 11-12 hours a night, then your infant is only awake 9 hours a day.  All these folks saying, well my nanny only spent 3-4 waking hours with my kid...I mean, I get that "3" and "4" sound like small numbers, but it is a full 30-40% of your child's waking hours.  That's of course a meaningful difference in what you could be spending if you stayed home (and again, that's assuming you have a very good napper).

I'm a FT working mom, btw.  [/quote]

Me again - also what is this talk about 3 year olds going to preschool 5 days a week from 9-1?  The majority of the SAHMs in my area send their 3 yr olds to preschool for [b]3 mornings a week[/b] (pick up at lunch).  Haven't you heard of the "3 days 3's"?  It's very silly to make up all these numbers and schedules.  Certainly pre-ES, of course SAHMs spend an appreciably larger percentage of their kids' waking hours with them than do most WOHM (at least those with fairly typical schedules).  How silly to pretend otherwise!  [/quote]

Yes it is true most SAHM's that are wealthy and poor send their kids to 5 days of preschool because of the value it adds. For the poor it's free and for the wealthy it's not a big deal.

But if you give up an income and have to skrimp I understand you can't send your kids 5 days a week and that's fine, they will be fine. [/quote]

I live in a UMC suburb.  The wealthy SAHMs here do "3 day 3's" -- preschool 3 mornings a week.  They don't see a value beyond that amount of preschool time for a 3 yr old.  [/quote]

Our SAHM do preschool 5 days and aftercare 2-3 days a week (easier than playdates which have to be planned). Aftercare just ended up being easier than trying to figure out playdate in the middle of dinner. [/quote]

I find this very hard to believe!  Here (again, wealthy area with lots of SAHMs) the typical schedule is:

3yr olds - preschool 3 mornings a week (typically 9 to noon)
4 yr olds (i.e. "pre-k" year) - 5 days a week  (typically 9-1)...some families do "enrichment" add-ons until 3ish one or two days a week
Then no aftercare once in ES, but some after-school ECs, playground meet-ups, etc.[/quote]

Beauvoir and most preschools don't even offer 3 days a week, let alone a measly 2 [/quote]

What do you mean "measly 2"?  No one here does two days a week.  I said the three year olds go 3 mornings a week.  I was saying that a lot of our preschools often offer "enrichment" options for otherwise enrolled kids...so, for example, if you are enrolled in the 5-day a week pre-k class from 9-1, then two days a week you could add "Spanish" or "nature explorers" or whatever, and extend your day to 3:00 those days.  [/quote]

Our preschool offered 2 day 2’s and 2 day 3’s (in addition to other options) for SAHM’s who essentially wanted a “moms morning out” type of situation for medical and hair appts, etc. Child had to be 2.5 by September. I choose 2 day 2s, 3 day 3s and 4 day 4s. There was a 5 day 4’s option plus lunch bunch but that seemed to be mostly for the very rowdy boys. I picked up at 12 and didn’t pay for lunch bunch because I didn’t want to risk a car nap - they napped (and ate) much better at home. [/quote]

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