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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a figure skater with 2 hockey player kids, this is a stupid post. You are literally comparing apples to oranges. Other than the fact that you have blades on your feet ( which are completely different ) the two spirts are completely different and attract completely different athletes.  It’s accurate to say that ice hockey now attracts more girls but little chance those athletes were ever going to figure skate.  [/quote]

I have a girl who does both.  She's been far the best skater on her co-ed hockey team. She's still young and they keep trying to recruit her to tryout for a travel team - hard no. She's our baby and we’re done with that circus. Figure skating is nice because you can pick and choose competitions. Same with golf. I am done traveling for team sports. [/quote]

Isn't it supposed to be about you daughter??? If she really wants to play travel hockey, or travel anything, shouldn't you support it. It's about your kid and not about you. Encouraging and supporting your child by spending your time and money is called parenting. It's nauseating hearing selfish parents bloviate on this message board endlessly about what they won't do for their DC even though they have the wherewithal to do so. Stop being so selfish, grow up, put your child's interest ahead of yours. They'll be out of the house and off to college before you know it.[/quote]

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Hard no on the "if your kid wants to do travel sports you must just smile and write the checks"

Why feed the money grab?[/quote]

So don't feed the "money grab" for something you can afford and YOUR CHILD wants to do and is committed to. Instead you will freely spend money on your [insert luxury brand car] because YOU want to, but sure overspending on something like that is certainly not a money grab. Right, ok, deprive your child of any personal interest they may desire UNLESS it aligns with YOUR interests.  That works out well if your child loves skiing in Vail as much as you do, but if your kid dreams of being a ballet dancer at Juilliard and you just think ballet is so boring then you can enjoy your distant relationship with YOUR CHILD once they graduate and move out for the rest of YOUR LIFE.

The point is people like you seem to only do what they want and must run a household that is militant in THEIR beliefs only. Children sometimes have different personalities and interest than their parents. DC is generally an affluent area and most people can afford to support at least a couple if their children's interest$ whether it be travel sports, the arts, travel, culinary arts, etc. Of course you can't do everything, but instead of only doing what you want sometimes it's good parenting to spend your time investing in what they want regardless of your interest.[/quote]

First, hockey is the worst money grab among youth sports, especially in non-traditional markets like the DMV.   Not to mention, ice times can be as early as 6 am or as late as 11 pm.    If you think it is going anywhere, it's not.  No matter how much money you spend and how many weekends you travel all over the country and how many weeks you send your kid to summer camp at Shattuck St Mary's, they are not going to play D1 hockey coming from here, now more than ever, with rule changes allowing more Canadians to play NCAA hockey.  If you are a young mom or dad just getting into the sport, you need to take a parent of an 18U or high school kid who played hockey at the highest level available here out to lunch to talk about their journey, and actually listen to them.  No amount of time or money that you spend trying to make your kid a hockey star in the DMV is going to get them to the NHL or even NCAA hockey, and NCAA D3 hockey is like a 1% chance for a boy, and they will not start college anymore playing D3 hockey until they are 20 or 21 after maxing out their juniors years.

So, if your kid wants to play hockey, let them play rec hockey. It's fun.  It leaves time for other sports.  You'll have time and money for family vacations where you can all have fun together.

If you want to sign your kid up for AAA or some lower level of travel hockey (which is definitely a dead end), and then get on here and preach about how great it is, why don't you report back when your kid is 20 and let us know how that went for them?  [/quote]

This is weird. You don’t just “sign up” for aaa hockey. My oldest just finished senior year high school and played aa travel hockey throughout. The second one stopped after 14u to focus on high school sports.

None (that I know) of the kids still playing travel hockey in high school are doing it because their parents are making them. Those kids normally bow oit after second year 14u or first year 16u. It’s too much of a time and money commitment for the parents if the kid doesn’t love it. None of the parents we encountered thought their kids were going to play in the nhl. You’re speaking in stereotypes and cliches. [/quote]

I speak as someone with experience on the AAA hockey circuit.  What happens is you think you're finally ready to leave the circus, then your kid shows a little more potential, and you think, "let's give it one more year of $30k+ fees and cazy travel commitments, plus 4 weeks of summer camp and privates, or, let's send our teenager to billet with another family instead of living at home with their parents, or let's let them defer college for 2 years and see where it goes."  I've been around long enough to see how it has played out for the older kids, and my advice is to just play rec hockey.  If you really want to play a sport at a high level, play something that makes sense from the DMV, like lacrosse.  [/quote]

My kid played AAA hockey for 5 years because he loved it not because he thinks he’s going to play college hockey. He’s going away to prep to keep playing hockey. Why? Because he loves it, outgrew the teams here and wants to have a fun high school experience playing a level of hockey that you can’t get in the DMV after about 15 U. It’s stupid to force your kid to play something else that they have no interest in just because the prospects are better in the DMV. He has tried many other sports but always comes back to hockey. So you’re saying we shouldn’t let him play hockey at the highest level he can because his prospects of playing in college are slim?  We’re letting him play hockey because he loves it and we can afford to do it. It’s that simple. And our weekends away and on the road were some of our best childhood memories. I wouldn’t trade that to stand on the sidelines of a soccer or lax field  here in  DC  (and either would be) but I’m biased. lol. [/quote]

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