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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As surprised as I would be... on a rational level, I fully support this.  Marry and have kids in  your twenties.  They'll be out and you'll have a whole second life ahead of you in your 40s.  Wait a decade and all the money earning years will go to your kids.  If you have them young when you have nothing... you don't even know better and can just roll with it all.  I did it all wrong for the record.  Spent my 20s working, finding myself and living the dream... paying for it now and probably well towards 60s as we have college, high school and grammar school kids now in school til 2037....  I'll be the OLDEST parent at graduation and in the poor house.[/quote]

If kids are the sole purpose it's better than have them in your mid 30s and beyond, and it seems like you do want them out of the house as fast as possible anyway, so why not just enjoy your child free young years which is better than enjoying an 40s empty nest.[/quote]

+1 I married at 31 and quickly had two kids. I'll be ready to retire at 60 with both kids will be out of college, ready to enjoy my empty nest. I enjoyed my 20s and was able to really focus on my career so when I had my kids I was in a good position to take a few years break with good connections so I could do some freelance work. I was 33 when #1 was born. If he were to have kids at the same age, I will hopefully be a healthy and active 66 year old retiree, able to help as much as he and his partner want. Would not be the case if we both had kids early. People who advise early kids also often seem to suggest getting help from grandparents to make it work, but that doesn't work if the grandparents also have to work full time!

I did have friends in college who married their college boyfriend/girlfriend and, for most of them, it did work out (although most also delayed kids until late 20s). I didn't happen to meet the right person then and benefitted from some more time to mature and gain confidence. [/quote]

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