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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I didn't read the thread, but as someone who married very late in life, had my first child at age 41 (naturally) and my second adopted at age 47, I strongly advise not going that route. I am now in my sixties with a kid in high school. My youngest will graduate college when I am 70 and my husband 75. Honestly, it isn't fair to your kids to have them so old. I may never meet my grandchildren. On the positive side, we are in a very good financial position and our kids were able to attend top private schools and universities. They will inherit a good fortune when we die.

I encourage both of my kids to find their spouse early in life. Sadly, my 25 year old doesn't even have a GF right now, so it isn't looking promising![/quote]

This was sad to read.  We have two close family members who had their one (and only) child when the mom was age 45 (and the dad slightly older).  They will be in the same boat.  That said, people age very differently and I think that having kids makes you young and more active and you will have friends a decade younger if they are parents of your kids' friends and that will keep you from presenting as a grandparent versus a parent.  The money, attention, time and perspective you provide and teach to your kids are way more important and your kids will be better off for it.[/quote]

PP here. I do have to say that people are always shocked to hear my age. My daughter even tells me that her friends are shocked when they hear I am 66 years old!! Most of the other parents are 10-20 years younger! To be totally frank, I don't relate at all to my daughter's friends' parents...too young and in another stage of life. We are retired and they are still working on careers and may even have young ones in elementary school. I think they feel uncomfortable around me because of my age. This wasn't the case with my older son's parents, though. Still maintain those friendships. I feel bad that I am not able to give my daughter the same sense of community that I provided to my son. Bottom line, don't wait until late 30s to get married and have kids.[/quote]

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