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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don't push and let her have a life outside of sports [/quote]

This. My kid's friends who do soccer have no time for anything else, it takes over evenings and weekends. Even though she likes it, I personally would consider dropping it for something less all-consuming. [b]It's important to me that my kid have time for other things. [/b][/quote]

I agree with you, but it’s kid dependent. If the kid is going to use their free time for truly rejuvenating things (sleeping, socializing, family time, hobbies, roaming around and staring at clouds) that’s fine. But if they are going to be on their phone the whole time, it’s probably better to overschedule them.[/quote]

Kids need to have a life outside of school, homework and activities. Will some kids not use their time wisely? Yes, but that doesn't mean you should treat all kids like that. [/quote]

My daughter in the 4th grade had a friend whose mother scheduled her every waking hour.   She came with us to a cookout that was near a Fourth of July carnival.  She had never gone to one and I’d never seen her so happy.   By, middle school she had turned awkward and uncomfortable in social settings.   She never had a minute to experience life outside of supervised training.  [/quote]

For every story like that, other kids went from D1 athletics to running Fortune 500 companies.  I was nationally competitive in a sport that required intense training from a young age - my peers who I trained with are a neurosurgeon, a big law partner, and a trust fund kid with a "job" working in their family office and a busy public social life that mainly involves giving away money.  You should probably keep your judgments and predictions of the outcome of high-achieving kids to yourself because it's pretty complicated to predict the trajectory of a fourth grader. [/quote]

My post was about a 4th grade girl who went from activity to activity from right after school until bedtime in a variety of activities.   She was mediocre at everything.  Still is.

I do know plenty of former D1 athletes that also played professional sports.  Some in my family, hockey and football.   They still had outside social lives, don’t be dramatic.  And the doctor did not need to play an all consuming sport to become a doctor.   Certainly going to law school is not some great feat.  Neither is working for your family.

Over scheduling your kids so that they don’t have any kind of social life or family life doest not usually turn out well m[/quote]

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