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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]3 kids, 9th grade (could repeat grade if were to switch schools as very young for grade), 6th and 4th grade.

I may be offered a job in nyc. I make $350k in dc right now.

How much more would justify a move with a family from dc? Dh can work remotely $150k salary [/quote]

I would need to make double and even then I wouldn't live in NYC, but a suburb.  Do your kids want to move?  Do they have close friendships? If they have good friends and you have a network in DC I would stay unless you may be laid off or something.  Look for something new in DC.  Also, what is commuting time?  If it will be more if you move do you want to be away from your kids (if you take NJ transit, it can be a mess, take early trains).

I know a few families who lived in NYC with a higher HHI  and they all moved/ say they are happier in the suburbs.  One with 7 figure salary moved to Old Greenwich and loves it, another moved to Chatham, NJ and two who moved to Princeton, NJ.  They lived in the city, loved it (some Brooklyn), but were tired of the crime, figuring out schools, and living in small apartments.  Two families had kids in school and it worked out fine, the other has a toddler.

I would go look at some of these areas if you can if you are thinking of moving to see if you like certain areas/ cost of taxes etc (NJ and CT have high taxes) impact take home pay.

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New Yorker here, in Manhattan. [b]No one truly likes the suburbs all that much, they just say that.[/b] If OP is comfortable doing public school - and there are amazing publics but you have to work to get in them- living in Manhattan or Brooklyn or queens is highly preferable. Why move to NYC to not live in NYC?

Being a teenage in NYC is amazing. And not sure what you mean about crime. It’s really not that big of an issue despite what you might read. [/quote]

Not true. There are many nice suburbs where people genuinely enjoy living. YOU may dislike suburbs but you’re not everyone.

I do agree that it doesn’t make a lot of sense to trade one suburb with another. Stay in the DC suburbs. [/quote]

Sure, people can end up tolerating their suburb. But anyone who moves to NYC to live in NYC and then ends up moving to a NYC suburb (still very expensive and you have to commute, but the school thing is easier) does it for one of two reasons- they don’t have the $ to live how they want to live in NYC and/or they are worried their kids won’t make the cut at one of the top NYC publics. [/quote]

Or safety.  Friend big time lawyer NYC.  Owned in Brooklyn, loved it, bought a home in suburbs during pandemic and now sold place in Brooklyn because their area which they said (I have no idea as I dont know the area) was very popular and kid friendly is not very safe anymore and has had many instances.  When they went back the local playground kids don't play on anymore according to them.  So that was why they moved.  They owned, kids went to private, but they seem very happy in the suburbs, have lots of friends and are happy their kids can move around freely.  [/quote]

Where is this? I find that extremely hard to believe. Brooklyn is massively gentrified now, and even formerly ‘up and coming’ areas are $$ now and very safe. I suspect they moved for other reasons- private school tuition was too much and they didn’t get one or more of their kids into the public they wanted for them- and they didn’t want to admit this. The SHS public schools are very sought after, but they are not right for every kid, and sometimes parents have a hard time admitting that. It’s like Stuy or Hunter or bust, and they are competing against kids whose parents have been prepping them for years (yes, lots of Asians). Too bad, bc there are tons of strong options other than SHS. I know bc I know kids who have thrived in them, gone on to great colleges etc [/quote]

I went to dinner with them maybe 2 weeks ago and they said they still talk to their former neighbors and there are issues.  Allegedly drugs, violence, etc.  They also lived in Brooklyn and Manhattan for 20 years, so they are not shocked by much.  Their kids were in privates and I don't think a partner has an issue with tuition.

Wherever they lived had a housing authority nearby which they said was not really an issue when they lived there but according to their neighbors has had some incidents recently.

I am just going by what they told me (and I won't be saying what area as mutual friends read this forum).  It is a different life, they have a larger house now, kids walk and bike to school, bike or walk to friends homes even at night, easy to sign up for activities.

The one complain is commuting that if you don't hit the right train you can have issues from the burbs into the city sometimes.

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Again, that doesn’t fully add up. What area of Brooklyn?

I’ll add that law firm partners are not considered super rich in NYC. Private schools are 60k a year and up, and admissions are extremely competitive, so again, I suspect the move was also a school issue. But who knows? Im just noting that people don’t leave Brooklyn bc of the crime. It’s just not a thing. [/quote]

Eh. There's plenty of petty unreported crime. And not all of Brooklyn is gentrified. [/quote]

Brooklyn is very gentrified, certainly any neighborhood that a ‘big law partner’ who has kids would have bought in.

Even gowanus gentrified. [/quote]

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