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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op, why would you want to keep the other woman away from the child?

I understand the hurt feelings because she was the affair partner, but unless she is abusive to your child or has other behavioral or psychological issues that put your child’s wellbeing at risk, there is no reason for you to prevent your child from being around her.

How old is your child? Is there conflict? Did the child express any reasons not to want to be around her?

As much as it hurts you, it’s probably now best for child to normalize back relationships including with the dad and his partner.[/quote] My child is 13. She's not abusive from what I hear she's a lovely person even though she's a homewrecker. She doesn't have children and I am worried about her trying to mother my child. My child already has a mother. [/quote]

I know it stings for you but this is much much better than the new wife who wants nothing to do with the husbands kids, and cuts them out and/or makes their lives miserable. We have had that happen in our family. G-d forbid they have a kid, make sure you don't make your kid feel like they can't be excited about a new sibling. [/quote]

This rings true for me. In the years since my ex remarried, she has consistently done things that devalued the kids - inviting them for sleepover then leaving them home alone while she and DH went to parties with her friends, DH moved into her 3 bedroom (where 1 bedroom was made into a walk in closet and the second was an office), never bought the kids real beds or made them a living space, then moved into a 2 bedroom condo that they bought for the price of a 3 bedroom SFH, advocated to DH to cut child support, etc.

It has been very painful seeing the reaction of my kids. DH is as much to blame as his wife.

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