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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No one actually beat her or dragged her anywhere, right?  She is 16 and should have known better.  So no I don't feel sorry for her at all and think that being ostracized from her community is fine.  [/quote]

In theory I agree that as a 16-year old she should know better and should face consequences; however, I don't think completing ostracizing her from the community is the answer. Kids screw up and make mistakes. They don't have a full appreciation of the consequences of their actions - even at 16 years old. Their brains are still developing. If we force everyone who has made a mistake to leave the community then how are we expected to correct the behavior? Admitting the action, apologizing for the action and facing the consequences within the community will go much further in teaching a lesson. Communities need to come together to teach a lesson which is sometimes hard and painful. Teaching those lessons often comes with a history lesson and facing those that were affected/offended/insulted. It shouldn't necessarily be easy, but a gentle approach to why it was hurtful will go much further in healing the community and truly teaching a lesson rather than simply exacting revenge. Those calling for beatings and killings don't have any desire to teach or change the landscape. They simply want revenge and that never helps any community.

There are obviously exceptions to this as a general rule - anyone who has refused to accept responsibility for the actions, has caused significant physical harm and threatens to do the same again and those who are repeat offenders. However, with so many other examples of kids screwing up we as a society could work together to educate the poor and disrespectful behavior. Sadly, I think society will be facing more of this kind of crap in the foreseeable future...we should start practicing these teachable moments now.[/quote]

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