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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have been trying to buy an apartment as an investment.  When I pulled a credit report, I found that I had been late on a mortgage payment on another property and that this was really my DH's fault.  His explanation was since I don't contribute a cent towards household expenses and he had to pay to repair the car I wrecked as well as the new water heater and new washer dryer a few months back all at the same time, there was not enough money from his paycheck to cover it all.  So, he paid the mortgage late.  Now I am pissed.  His response was I could finally get it together and contribute to the household expenses.  Further, he said that since I did not ask him about the new apartment, that my problem is not his "circus and not his monkeys" and that I just have to deal with it.

How do you even respond to that?  I thought it very rude.  And now he uses this phrase all the time when he feels I am in a pickle of my own making, not understanding that my pickles are because of his making.  Bastard! [/quote]

You are in a pickle of your own making.

Why do you not contribute to household expenses?  Why do you and DH not share information about large purchases (eg large car repair bill, water heater, apartment, new large appliances)?  Why were going to purchase an apartment without discussing it with your DH? Why does your DH pay your mortgage on another property?

What kind of partnership do you have with your DH?

I know some couples (DH and I included) that combine all monies and pay all bills together.  I know some couples that want to keep their finances separate but they ALL split common expenses like household costs (some 50/50 - some on proportion to each of their earnings)- but they still consult with each other on large purchases.

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