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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When I married my DH, his bios were 4 and 7. My bios were 6 and 10.  I had physical custody of my bios. We gained physical custody of my step kids about a year after our marriage.  Our exes were minimumly involved.  They saw them a couple of times a year at most.  DH is dad to all four.  I am mom to all four. A year later we had a child together.  We look, feel, and function like any other family. Most people have no idea we are blended. Our kids never shared that information. They just referred to us as "my parents" or "my mom" or "my dad" regardless of blood.

Sometimes kids are better off with a caring, involved, loving stepparent in their lives. I cannot image my life without my step kids. They are every bit as much my kids as the ones I gave birth to.  I disagree with the posters suggesting I am not financially responsible for my stepkids.  When my DH and I got married, we committed to each other AND to the children. We provide for our five children equally.

We have been married for well over 20 years. The kids are grown and out of the house except for our youngest.  Our oldest is married with a baby of his own now.  Several weeks ago someone asked me about my pregnancies and I was struggling to remember the details of one.  I took a minute for me to remember that I didn't give birth to her.  Our family is that blended.

Our kids are better off because of theirs step parents.  Children cannot have too many people in their lives who love and support them.[/quote]

Well, miracles do happen once in a while, and I'm glad your family has enjoyed one, in no small part due to your and your DH's generosity and hard work, I am sure. Sadly, I think stories like yours are uncommon enough that I wouldn't personally be comfortable with the odds on this path.

I have seen A LOT of step parents who have essentially muscled-out the kids best interests in favor of their own desires. And none of them cop to it either. They all think they've done a fine job.

Maybe one boon in your case was that you both brought 2 kids into the marriage as opposed to one (initially) childless person. [/quote]

I've never met a truly evil stepmom. My kids' father is remarried and I love his wife!  I could not have picked a better other mother for my children. He is a better father because of her. My kids are lucky to have her in their lives.[/quote]

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