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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Long story short: I am 25, been taking care of my for the past 7 years with my  now $33k salary and she gets about $8k from SS. Because of her past drug usage and[b] her current medical issue of having a colostomy bag[/b], family members refuse to let her stay with them. I am a weekday live-in nanny and come home on weekends. I have been offered to just stay at "work" on weekends if I'd like to (I have my own suite there). Life isn't fair, but I'm at a crossroads where I'm just done taking care of my mom and I'm tired of having to work weekends to make ends meet. I don't go out, I don't eat out, don't drink coffee so no Starbucks BILL so any advice on saving $, I've been there, done that.  No, my mom can't work not even part time but she's able to at least clean up behind herself. I come home Fridays to a filthy, smell filled apartment, dirty clothes in the ONLY bathroom sink soaking of poop, junky living room, kitchen sink pilled up high. I spend Friday nights or Saturday morning cleaning just so the place can look decent while she's asleep.  I've talked with her and it's always, I'll do it later.. I don't feel good, I'm tired (from doing nothing). It's to the point where If I'm not working on the weekends, I find other places to stay because of how lazy she is and dirty she keeps the place. I'm just tired of working to take care of someone when I can save roughly $800/mo to speed up payments of student loans, car note or even take a trip somewhere (I've never been out of the USA let along off the east coast ) IDC if I sound selfish,  I'm just ready to finally live my life. I am curious how someone who may have been in a similar situation handled it.  Thanks !

PS: No, I don't know where she'll stay if I decide to end my current lease.[/quote]

If she is has this serious condition then I can see why she is so depressed and doesn't care anymore. She needs to get the help she needs and your support as her family. Family can be frustrating and it's our natural instinct to be selfish but you need to get her the help she needs because it sounds like she needs help and motivation.

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