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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You have a baby on the way and this is the dynamic???

Get into couples therapy NOW. I'm not joking. This board is littered with wives who do everything and then complain about their husbands who just sit there waiting to be told what to do. I think there's a thread now ("Tired of being the grown-up" or something like that) where it's clear that the wife/mother of a 3 yr old is done and considering divorce.

This will not go away because you made some "tweak" you read about on a forum. This will take a significant effort on BOTH your parts. Like everything else in your marriage, it can't be directed by you. That's why you need a professional to assist with this change. [/quote]

This is a little dramatic.  I think you can sit down and talk to your husband and explain how you feel and how you need him to step up.  I don't think you need a paid stranger in the room when you have this conversation.

It may take having your husband learn his lesson a few times.  Let him book the vacation without the pet care being arranged.  So what?  Last time I went on vacation my husband asked about the newspapers.  I told him I thought he stopped the paper.  Of course he didn't but I'm not going to let him assume I always do these things.  [/quote]

Do you have children PP? If so, what are the ages and how self-directed is your husband with their care?[/quote]

No kid.  Kid on the way.  I've had to design the baby nursery.  My husband will offer his opinion when asked.  We both have certain things we take care of.  For example he does all the laundry and I clean the bathrooms.  I am over expecting my husband to care about the same things I do.  He has a lot on his plate and handles a lot.  But the man just isn't going to go crazy over the baby nursery or which stroller I order.  For vacations, if I don't plan them well we won't go.  So I plan them and enjoy being 100 in control of what we see and do.  He always remarks later how amazing the trip was.  Who cares that I planned it all?  I enjoy doing so and we have a great time. [/quote]

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