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[quote=Anonymous]I guess this is a vent. We have holiday visitors in town. I was working today. DH had the day off. He has a history of not paying attention to our toddler DD's needs, not paying attention to schedules (like if the grocery store counter with turkey pickup closes at x time, he can't be still goofing around at 15 minutes before X and think he'll be able to get the turkey), etc. Before this thanksgiving, he has been going to adult ADHD coaching/therapy, told me that he's be on the ball and take responsibility for the share of work that he agreed to, etc and be proactive about meeting DD's needs when he's home with her. Its Thanksgiving eve, and I have a screaming toddler who he was supposed to feed at lunch, give a snack in the afternoon, and play with while I prepped for tomorrow. Instead she fell into an exhausted tantrum before dinner because he let her play instead of sitting her down to lunch, gave up on putting her down for her nap because "she wanted to play", and "forgot" to feed her a snack, which I found out when she came to me wailing for food an hour before her usual dinner. Then I felt like I was the bitchy wife in front of his relatives because I had to ask if she's had a snack or a nap. I wanted to scream at him in front of everyone. I'm so tired of having to be the grownup who has to assert things like schedules and basic routines, and being the one to interrupt everyone's fun times to say things like "We need to head home now so DD can have dinner" while he gets to look like the fun-loving, playful dad. And then when DD melts down from lack of food and sleep, all eyes swivel to me like I'm the one who didn't meet her needs.

I'm tired of having to advocate for my DD and being the meanie wife/mommy while he gets to still be the fun-loving friend/son/brother.[/quote]

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