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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When she complains, tell her it's not too late for them to cancel and reassure her that it's totally fine with you if they cancel. Otherwise, when she complains say, "You know, Mom, we are hoping for a relaxing, stress-free week. No complaining, no worrying, no stress."  Repeat as often as necessary and cut her off with this when she starts complaining. [/quote]

This is great advice since the "setting boundaries on not allowing them to come" ship has sailed.  Obviously, the best course of action would have been to kindly tell them this was going to be a "just us" vacation but what's done is done.  All you can focus on now is making it clear you aren't going to listen to the endless complaints when they should have known what they're getting.  You won't be able to get the vacation you were originally planning on but you can at least not let yourself be held prisoner by their gripes and groans.  [/quote]

Great advice. Furthermore, I suggest you all do exactly what YOU planned to do. Don't let this devolve into a trip looking for ways to accomodate their needs. They are grown ass adults and can figure it out.

Mom- Have you found a church for us to attend on Christmas?
You- There's a chapel at the hotel that has a service Christmas Eve- that's what we're doing. I'm sure the Conceirge can help you find something else if you want!

You- We're heading down to the beach after breakfast. Do you want to meet for lunch?
Mom- Oh, honey you know I can't do the beach.
You- What time should we meet for lunch? Or do you want to catch up this afternoon (repeat repeat repeat)
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