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[quote=Anonymous]I have two groups in my family who I avoid because of guns (I'm not anti-gun, but these guns were not, like, in a safe or in some other reasonable location- they were out on the counter with kids running around) and drugs/drug dealers.

The branch of the family I was able to avoid, I just stopped visiting (they live out of state).  The unavoidable part of the family my is parents and my sibling (my sibling is a severe addict and lives with my parents).  I had to address it head-on and explained why sibling was unwelcome in our home, why we wouldn't be visiting their home again.  Luckily, I have little kids and the last visit was a disaster, complete with police involvement - so I had a bit of an out.

It's very possible your DH will have to address this head-on, and be prepared for it to strain their relationship, because no one likes to think that THEIR drug addict kid (grandkid) is all that terrible/dangerous/whatever.  Nine times out of ten, there has been years of turning a blind eye to what is going on in their home (either as a coping mechanism for something they can't control, or because they are lousy and/or worn-out as parents).  Sometimes they know, deep down that their kids (in this case, grandkids) are screwed up, but they hate any kind of attention being called to it, because they see it as a personal failure.  If she understood how bad her grandkids were, she wouldn't expect other relatives to host them.  I'd NEVER ask a relative to host my addict/dangerous sibling, because I see the situation clearly.  I would back up any relative who doesn't want their kids or themselves around my sibling, and I'd advocate for them.[/quote]

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