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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This may not be a popular opinion, but I think we've emphasized sexuality, especially for younger kids, that we haven't left room to recognize that you can have feelings of friendship and affection for someone, without it being about sex.

I consider myself gay-friendly and open to people of varying orientations, but it bothers me that a 12 or 13 year old feels pressured to put a sexual label on their feelings.  I'm not saying that's what you're doing, op, but I think it's a pressure that surrounds all our kids these days.  [/quote]

Do you say the same thing to kids who identify as straight at 13? [/quote]

Actually yes. I don't think we should be pressuring 13 year olds to identify themselves by the gender of the person they want to have sex with.   Too much labeling, too much sex for kids that age.  They should be allowed to explore friendships with kids of either gender without the sense that friendship and affection automatically means sex. [/quote]
I "knew" I was straight in third grade when I had my first real crush on a boy on my class. (Ok, before that, I had a crush on Micky Dolenz from The Monkeys when I was five. Don't judge.) I wasn't pressured to identify or label myself; I didn't have sexual feelings; I just knew I liked this boy as more than a friend, and that became a pattern. This was 1987, so there's no way anyone was remotely talking about kids' gender identities or sexual orientation, by the way.

What I'm saying is, kids know. They know. And they might be saying it earlier than they used to--and talking about their feelings, understanding that gender and sexuality can be fluid--but many of us don't see anything wrong with that. [/quote]

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