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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you have a pediatric appointment soon?  Any chance the ped would back you up that separate room and crib is healthy and sleep is important.?

You might also remind DH the sleep (even for baby) is on of most critical needs for health and learning.  Developing uninterrupted nightly sleep is important.  Pediatrician could agree with that.

Can you sleep in separate room when it is not your night for baby?

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My thought too was to enlist the pediatrician ASAP. Talk to the doctor beforehand -- frankly, get the doctor to say what you need said here. Some people will listen to a professional like a doctor much better than they listen to their own spouse. Sad, but true.

It is utterly unsafe to have your baby in the bed. You know that and he's being obtuse and stubborn. There is a lot online about the dangers of having babies in bed; find the articles and show him. Babies can and do end up smothered amid adult blankets and pillows. And it's lousy for you and your husband as a couple. Sleeping together once in a while for comfort if a baby is really upset or just for snuggling? Fine. But first you need to get baby OK with a crib that is not in your room.

Do sleep train. As another PP said, that does not mean "cry it out," which your pediatrician will tell you is a bad idea (Go ahead, cry it out parents, have at me, I don't care). That means putting baby in her crib and going back (silently, not interacting) every five minutes, then every 10, then every 15 so she gets reassurance but does NOT come out of the crib. It might mean, for a time, one of you sitting next to the crib with one hand lightly on her as she falls asleep. You will not be doing this when she's five, or even when she's one, if you are calm and consistent about it now. We graduated from a light touch on our DD as she fell asleep, to my sitting in the hall a short while where she could see me, to our being able to put her to bed in the crib a little awake and just fine.

Your husband may be thinking it's just easier to keep her in your room and your bed than to sleep train. But keeping her in your room will end up with her being so used to it she'll be there way too long. That is bad for your sex life and bad for her ability to be OK being alone at times.

We knew a couple like you, where the husband wanted the baby in their room. The kid stayed until he was [i]four [/i]because mom didn't put her foot down. I can't imagine it.[/quote]

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