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Ha! I was 38 and found a man who wanted to have a baby with me. I mean, why would we need a piece of paper, right?

Listen to this wise old crone, OP. "He seems like a really good family guy" is not a compatible statement with "we don't need to be married." Go to the courthouse, travel to Bora Bora and get pregnant. Do a prenup, with custody contingencies, if possible.

We had a wedding between the two babies we had. I was a single mom the entire time. I know that's a highly contested term on DCUM, and yes, I hate the whole "my DH is away for the weekend, so I'm a single mom" thing. But, JUST as he thought so little of marriage, he also turned out to have the same cavalier attitude towards parenting. "Seems like a really good family guy" describes my XH to a "T" and here I am. Luckily, I have full legal and physical custody. This "family man" loves photo shoots and decorating his bachelor pad with pictures of our children. I overheard him talking to another man about how much life changes after children and wanted to fucking puke. How? For him?

Understand going in the risk of single-parenting this baby. If your friend is cool with that being the outcome, hey, go for it. It's been three years since his divorce. He's eligible to marry your friend. That he doesn't want to says something. He's hesitant about the ring and the faux honeymoon, but wants a baby? That's a very specific kind of relationship. She'd be a fool (like me) not to see it for what it is.

Good luck!![/quote]

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