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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a bi person who still has not come out to her (extremely judgmental) family, I would not.  Trust me, someone who is nervous about coming out is already going to be listening with extra attention to any mention of lesbians, bisexual people, etc.  This is HER life journey, not yours.  So let her decide how she wants it to go.  The only thing you should do is say (and don't make it weird or be obvious that you are doing it) how perfect of a couple Ellen and Portia are, or "Did you see Kristen Stewart and St Vincent are dating?  Man, they make a beautiful couple" etc.  Create the environment where there is NO DOUBT that you will be accepting of it.  But don't come straight out and bring it up to her.  She may not even be ready for that or sure that she is bi.  Sexuality is something that is not always black and white.  She may think she's bi now and realize that she is actually straight later, or a lesbian.  Thats her path.  A lesbian friend of mine in her 60s says figuring out desire and the journey of sexuality is something she is still surprised at, even at her age, on a daily basis (which is really kind of beautiful).  Give your DD the space where she feels safe, but she might not want to label herself yet (or ever!).  Just create an environment where she feels she doesn't have to worry about your disapproval and you will be doing her a great service. [/quote]

What a great, thoughtful post. [/quote]

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