Toggle navigation
Toggle navigation
Home
DCUM Forums
Nanny Forums
Events
About DCUM
Advertising
Search
Recent Topics
Hottest Topics
FAQs and Guidelines
Privacy Policy
Your current identity is: Anonymous
Login
Preview
Subject:
Forum Index
»
Tweens and Teens
Reply to "Single dad clueless dealing with pre-teen drama "
Subject:
Emoticons
More smilies
Text Color:
Default
Dark Red
Red
Orange
Brown
Yellow
Green
Olive
Cyan
Blue
Dark Blue
Violet
White
Black
Font:
Very Small
Small
Normal
Big
Giant
Close Marks
[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]These are the 4 words you need: [b]"That. must. be. hard." [/b] Say them sympathetically when your daughter sighs or moans about friend stuff or girl drama. Just listen and say those 4 words. That's it. Do NOT offer to fix anything. Do NOT offer any advice. Do NOT analyze. Do NOT make lists with her of pros or cons. Do NOT judge her friends out loud (even the ones who are causing the drama). Do this for the next couple YEARS and you will see that she starts to open up. She will confide in you. Then one day: she will ask your opinion. That's where you offer only a very light opinion, followed by "I know this is hard." My three girls are young adults in college. My DH did this simple approach for their whole tween and teen years. He was increasingly invited into the inner world of our daughters' lives, thoughts, feelings. They text him and call him several times a week in college. His relationship with them is remarkable. This approach didn't happen without some coaching from me in the beginning. :) He will occasionally lapse into trying to fix stuff for them, but he always stops himself and let's that go. He sticks with the mantra above, and it's remarkable what the girls will talk to him about. [/quote] How did you come up with this approach? Did you read it in a book?[/quote]
Options
Disable HTML in this message
Disable BB Code in this message
Disable smilies in this message
Review message
Search
Recent Topics
Hottest Topics