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[quote=Anonymous]I agree that after 8 years it's not a fog, but things usually "change" when the OW finally gets tired of not being the wife and starts making serious demands.

Then, either he hits the eject button and goes with her, or he gets out of what he has with her because she's starting to act nuts.

It depends on what you want out of your marriage. At the very least, he's demonstrated that he is not going to marry her without a metric ton of force being applied, either from OW or you.

A lot of people are quick to say "dump him" but those are usually people who have never been through it, or who have done it themselves and think everyone else should make the same decisions. Not everyone's situation is the same.

One truth is that chances are, if you file for divorce, while you'll be free to move on, a guy like your husband will probably end up marrying the OW. He's already following the path of least resistance by staying with you and having her on the side, without pulling the trigger in any direction. If you create a vacuum, she'll fill it. Do you want to have weird family holidays, do you want to give up half the holidays with your dc, do you want your dc to have a stepmother and step siblings and potentially new half siblings? Do you SAHM and would a divorce force you to go back to work? [/quote]

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