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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, there's nothing wrong with a boy crying, and you shouldn't assume others will think there is.
 
  Don't let your son think there's something wrong with him crying in front of people. You need to give the other kids a chance to show themselves as decent human beings. He's not "making himself a target." There was nothing wrong with his behavior. If someone begins to bully him, THAT is the behavior that needs to be addressed. But there may not be any of that. So don't worry ahead of time.

Just do what you can to see that your boy feels comfortable confiding in you. But otherwise, celebrate the sensitive soul he has. There is a lot in our world to bring tears to our eyes. Nothing wrong with being sensitive.[/quote]

Crying is a sign of weakness, especially in middle school. OP is right to be alarmed.[/quote]

Yeah, crying in public rarely ends well. Showing emotions so openly will likely lead to some social problems because kids pick on each other and this is something that can be exploited. Work with him on better strategies to manage his emotions and keep himself cool and composed. [/quote]

The issue here is that some kids won't know how to deal with one of their classmates cry (male and female). That is why some kids might make fun or back off - they don't know what else to do. He can always say that he is dealing with an ill family member, pet, etc. to provide a "legitimate" excuse for the crying. A woman I know started crying during a confrontation at work. It was awkward but when she told us her mom was very sick and she had just been under a lot of pressure, we were all more sympathetic and accepting.

You can also tell him to state he has to pee and tear out of the room to a private area if his emotions are getting the best of him.

Hopefully, most kids will be mature about it and this will blow over.
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