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[quote=Anonymous]My husband and I are in a trial separation. He moved out. Right now he's staying at a friend's house part of the time, a weekly hotel the other part of the time, i.e. nothing permanent like an apartment. We spoke last night about what we need to "work on" while separated. Nothing came out all that specific - he said he needed to work on "listening", "respect" and "being a better person." I said I needed to concentrate on finding a voice in the relationship, that I get I stuffed a lot during or marriage. But as I sit here and reflect on this upcoming time, I mean, really? This seems like just platitudes before divorce, which might be OK.

I'm not sure what my question is other than did anyone actually do "good work" while in a separation? Or is this just a delayed divorce? Any advice on how to make this time apart count? We've been married 9 years and have one 7-year-old, who is obviously less than happy about this.

P.S. He's asked to be able to come back to the house once a week on Sunday so he can watch his team in football (we have the direct TV football package), and that would be his time also with our daughter. That's it. One day, while watching football, is what he wants in terms of seeing her. That sort of made my stomach hurt.[/quote]

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